The Making of Marriage

When I was 14, I sat on the lap of a boy on a bus. Fast forward 20 years, and now at 34, I sleep next to that same guy, all grown up.

Believe it or not, that moment on the bus was the first time we ever met. Our first date didn’t come until a couple of years later, on May 26, 2006. Picture it: South Carolina, 2006. I’m 16, perched nervously on my parents’ couch, waiting for this cute boy to show up for our “hangout.” After crushing on him for what felt like half of my high school career, I was a bundle of nerves. Did he like me the way I liked him? Would he try to kiss me? My mind raced with anticipation and a million questions.

During our movie date watching “The Exorcism of Emily Rose,” something magical happened. We made our relationship official. That seemingly ordinary evening became the start of a journey that’s still unfolding.

Our 20-year relationship hasn’t been perfect, by any means. There were plenty of Wednesday nights when we argued during Youth Group and left in tears. We’ve navigated high school, college, multiple moves, graduate school, business ownership, and raising children. Each stage has brought its own set of challenges and joys. Looking back on that moment on the couch, knowing everything we’ve endured and achieved together, I wouldn’t change my answer for anything.

We had no idea then how much laughter and how many challenges lay ahead, but God had already written our story. That high school sweetheart life isn’t for everyone, but I’m so grateful it was for us. Growing up with my best friend and building a life together has been nothing short of amazing.

This week, we challenge you to take a stroll down memory lane. Think back to your first date with your spouse. Where did you go? What did you do? What were the vibes? Reflect on how your feelings have evolved and deepened over time. We hope this exercise sparks beautiful memories and maybe even inspires new ones.